- Find the best professors. Ask older students which ones are good teachers and which ones aren't. Having a good professor can make a huge difference in whether a class is enjoyable or painful.
- If you're allowed to collaborate on p-sets, do that. Having p-set buddies is incredibly helpful, especially in challenging classes. When you get stuck on a problem, they'll help un-stick you, and vice versa. This is a perfectly normal thing to do: mathematicians have an extremely collaborative culture, despite the stereotype of the recluse working alone in an ivory tower. Indeed, in proof-based math classes, working together with your classmates is not only normal, but often essential to doing well in the class.
- Go to office hours if you need help. You've probably heard this before, but that's for a reason. Any decent professors or TAs will be happy to re-explain stuff that you didn't get the first time around. They will not think you are dumb for asking; on the contrary, they'll respect you for putting in the effort to learn. It's much better to be the kid who goes to office hours and asks for help than the kid who doesn't and is eternally confused. If you have a schedule conflict that prevents you from going to office hours, it's totally normal to email the professor or TA to ask to meet at an alternate time.
- Ask questions in class. Admittedly, this depends on your class size; if you're in a 100-person calculus lecture where asking questions feels super awkward, then, well, no pressure. But in smaller classes, definitely go for it. In my experience, professors appreciate being asked questions, and see above re: "what if they think I'm dumb." Plus, if you're confused by something, other students probably are too.
- Sometimes, even if your professor is nice and means well, their style of explanation might not mesh with your style of learning. Or sometimes, it's Sunday and they're not available. Or sometimes, it's Tuesday and you could totally go to office hours, but it's raining and you'd rather stay in your nice cozy dorm. The point is, if you want, you can just ask your classmates for help instead of asking the professor. In my own experience, every time I've asked a classmate to explain something I didn't get, they've been happy to.
- If you've exhausted all other options (or even if you haven't), and there's still a topic you don't really understand, the internet is your friend (as long as you're not using it to look up answers to homework problems). For example, check out my page of math resources. A caveat: the internet has a lot more instructional material for lower-level classes like calculus and linear algebra than for advanced proof-based classes.
- Finally, don't blame yourself if you get lost. It can be really disheartening when you find that your first college-level math class, or your first proof-based math class, is a lot harder than you expected -- but don't beat yourself up. Most college-level math classes are designed to be hard! Be proud: You have taken on this challenge.
And this is the part where I stop, because I have completely forgotten to drink my hypothetical tea.
